Who do you WANT to be?
Many people have set out on "the journey to find themselves", have asked
for professional help in discovering who they "are" or who they "want to be". For many, it is really a journey of finding their PURPOSE in life. So many men and women grew into adult hood with a picture in their mind of what "life" was supposed to be, worked hard in school and career seeking to arrive at that "destination" only to find themselves feeling empty and lost in a sense... sometimes gradually or even suddenly one day realizing they do not really know where or what that "destination" really is. It is at that point that many start looking for their "purpose" in life or the "meaning" of life itself.
Many coaches, authors and professional educators have written and spoke about this subject. The "meaning" of life or finding ones "purpose". I was up late one night recently researching what countless others have written on this subject and it suddenly all came together for me, at about 3:30am, it became clear that a combination of what most of these very experienced and educated folks were trying to communicate on this subject was ACCEPTANCE AND CHANGE.
First, ACCEPTANCE of whom you are right now, of whom you have been in the past and of whom you will become in the future. You will likely CHANGE in the future, and when that happens ACCEPT yourself as you are in that moment when you realize who you are, if you want to change, make those changes and accept the outcome of that. Acceptance does not have to mean that nothing can change, it only assures the level of your happiness in the present time!
Finding yourself is not a destination, nor is building or creating a "life" it is a journey and a lifelong one. Please find the 4 keys below to accepting yourself, so you can be in the right place to make the changes you desire, in order to have the life you want!
1. Make time DAILY to reflect, meditate or otherwise sit quietly with yourself, by yourself, without any interruptions. For some 15 minutes a day will be enough. When you have a lot to sort out, start with more time, there are many very successful folks out there who spend at least an HOUR each day to reflect.
2. Get to KNOW yourself - truly understanding yourself will open up the path to the discovery of skills, talents or interests that you may not have realized you had. You may need the assistance of a professional for this, some journal their way to self discovery, and for some just spending time alone reflecting is enough.
3. Keep your circle small! Look around at those you spend time with on a regular basis. The people in your smallest circles have a huge influence on who you are and the decisions that you make. After all, whatever you spend the most time doing, there are usually people with you - whether that is working, a hobby, building a business or whatever you do in your free time.
Jim Rohn, an author and motivational speaker once said, "You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with." That was a very powerful statement and if you really think about it and apply it to either yourself or people you know well, you will easily find it to be true more often than not.
4. TAKE RESPONSIBILITY - Taking responsibility is the fastest way to acceptance. Discover and take responsibility for your beliefs about yourself and others, especially the limiting beliefs which will hold you back from moving forward in many ways! Take responsibility for your own inner demons and how they have affected who you are right now. Take responsibility for WHERE you are in your life right now - as soon as you stop blaming anything else or anyone else, you will be able to make the changes you want.
Thank you for reading - may you accomplish all your dreams - don't forget to enjoy each day as you do so! Please feel free to add your comments or share your experiences here.. Blessings!
Renee Johnston
for professional help in discovering who they "are" or who they "want to be". For many, it is really a journey of finding their PURPOSE in life. So many men and women grew into adult hood with a picture in their mind of what "life" was supposed to be, worked hard in school and career seeking to arrive at that "destination" only to find themselves feeling empty and lost in a sense... sometimes gradually or even suddenly one day realizing they do not really know where or what that "destination" really is. It is at that point that many start looking for their "purpose" in life or the "meaning" of life itself.
Many coaches, authors and professional educators have written and spoke about this subject. The "meaning" of life or finding ones "purpose". I was up late one night recently researching what countless others have written on this subject and it suddenly all came together for me, at about 3:30am, it became clear that a combination of what most of these very experienced and educated folks were trying to communicate on this subject was ACCEPTANCE AND CHANGE.
First, ACCEPTANCE of whom you are right now, of whom you have been in the past and of whom you will become in the future. You will likely CHANGE in the future, and when that happens ACCEPT yourself as you are in that moment when you realize who you are, if you want to change, make those changes and accept the outcome of that. Acceptance does not have to mean that nothing can change, it only assures the level of your happiness in the present time!
Finding yourself is not a destination, nor is building or creating a "life" it is a journey and a lifelong one. Please find the 4 keys below to accepting yourself, so you can be in the right place to make the changes you desire, in order to have the life you want!
1. Make time DAILY to reflect, meditate or otherwise sit quietly with yourself, by yourself, without any interruptions. For some 15 minutes a day will be enough. When you have a lot to sort out, start with more time, there are many very successful folks out there who spend at least an HOUR each day to reflect.
2. Get to KNOW yourself - truly understanding yourself will open up the path to the discovery of skills, talents or interests that you may not have realized you had. You may need the assistance of a professional for this, some journal their way to self discovery, and for some just spending time alone reflecting is enough.
3. Keep your circle small! Look around at those you spend time with on a regular basis. The people in your smallest circles have a huge influence on who you are and the decisions that you make. After all, whatever you spend the most time doing, there are usually people with you - whether that is working, a hobby, building a business or whatever you do in your free time.
Jim Rohn, an author and motivational speaker once said, "You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with." That was a very powerful statement and if you really think about it and apply it to either yourself or people you know well, you will easily find it to be true more often than not.
4. TAKE RESPONSIBILITY - Taking responsibility is the fastest way to acceptance. Discover and take responsibility for your beliefs about yourself and others, especially the limiting beliefs which will hold you back from moving forward in many ways! Take responsibility for your own inner demons and how they have affected who you are right now. Take responsibility for WHERE you are in your life right now - as soon as you stop blaming anything else or anyone else, you will be able to make the changes you want.
Thank you for reading - may you accomplish all your dreams - don't forget to enjoy each day as you do so! Please feel free to add your comments or share your experiences here.. Blessings!
Renee Johnston
