Why are some
confident and some lack confidence. Most of those who lack confidence live in fear.
Those who are confident are those who take ACTION and try new things. Those
people stretch themselves to learn more, become more, get that degree, go for
that promotion or new job, make that career change or enter into that new
relationship!
The questions we
ask ourselves in fear and the fear based responses that come along with that
are the OBSTACLES that will stop you from taking the action needed to get to
confidence!
ACTION IS THE
KEY!!!
If you would like
to be confident in one area of your life, or are lacking confidence in more
than one area – you can change this almost immediately – here it is – 6 simple
steps!
1. Start at square one..
Many
people quit before they even get started because they focus on “how far” it is
from where they are now to the end result. Well they are already living in fear
so therefore feel incapable of getting to that point from where they are now.
Forget about the end and focus on the FIRST STEP and only the first step. The
harder you focus only on step 1 – the faster you will get to step 2!
2. Remember that all progress is still
progress..
Your brain is now temporarily stuck in fear based mode. That built up
fear will try to convince you that these small accomplishments are too small.
Not true! Every tiny bit of progress, every small step is in the right
direction and that is ALL THAT COUNTS! Stick with it and you will make it to
the finish line – every time!
3. Remind yourself – it is not HOW you feel;
it is WHAT YOU DO!
Don’t feel afraid while you take these steps toward your goal – tell yourself
that you are not afraid. I know, your fear based brain, again is trying to
dominate you.. maybe you have a quick pulse, shaky hands, shallow breaths, you
may feel dizzy and have a sick stomach as you take actions toward your goal but
you are still MOVING IN THE RIGHT DIRECTION – TOWARD the goal! That is what
counts, not how you FEEL while you do it. As you recognize what you are feeling
and resist the urge to be afraid by it, those feelings will change. Don’t judge
yourself for how you are feeling and label it as “afraid”. Celebrate the fact
that you are moving right on through those feelings and accomplishing what you
set out to in spite of them.
4. Get high on taking action!
There is a wonderful feeling (its magical) that occurs directly after
(or during) taking action that you were previously too afraid to take. Use that
high to your advantage. While you are having that good feeling write down or
record how you feel. “I felt excited, proud, or happy when I…” Review these
notes the next time you are at step one or step 2 with something. If you
meditate or use imagery when working on your goal planning, imagine yourself
actually DOING the thing that you want to do most. Watch yourself (like
watching a movie on a screen) actually doing it and try and FEEL those good
feelings like you did the last time you took action when you were afraid to.
5. KNOW that action builds confidence..
Deciding to take action, and DOING it
in spite of fear will build and build upon your level of confidence, more and
more each time. Taking action provides many opportunities for growth beyond the
specific goal we decide to work on.
In this action we grow confident about ourselves and about our
abilities. It is in the action that we find out what mistakes are and how much
stronger we are by learning from them and again TAKING ACTION anyway the next
time!
6. REPEAT steps 1-5
Each time you feel afraid, in any way
of anything – get as fast as you can through steps one thru 4 and right on to
step 5 TAKE ACTION!
What
action can you take to overcome your fear today?
Many people who want to overcome their fears find it
easier to make a structured plan or to have accountability to sticking to their
plan, with help from a life coach. If you need help right away, OR want to try
a FREE sample coaching session, send me an email or give me a call. My contact
info is below.
Our senior
consultants provide personal and team coaching, team building and team
trainings and other services for business owners specializing in profitability.
Visit our website today at www.TheMaxProfit.com.
Thanks for reading!
Renee Johnston
Personal/Team Coach
CEO
The Max Profit
(360) 490-7045
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